Gaydate

There are a few things you always want to ask your dates, but never do.  They are what the French would call bougouis questions... oh, that reminds me.  I got stood-up by a cowardly Frenchman a couple of weeks ago; totally overrated nation.  

But I digress...  these questions include:  "Why did your last long-term relationship end?"  "How do you want to raise our future children?"  and my mother's favorite, "Why are you still single?"

I never thought I would find myself wanting to ask, "Excuse me, but you're gay, aren't you?"  I SWEAR, I went out with a gay man.  

When I first came across his profile on Jdate, I thought he was great.  His About Me section was so funny and that's a good way to get my attention.  He also looked mighty cute in his pictures, which doesn't hurt.  So, we email back and forth for a bit and I give him my number.  The minute he says, "Hi Rachel," I think, omg, he's gay!  But I stop myself short...  I know better then that.  Judaism says to always give people the benefit of the doubt, so I make myself believe that's in all in my mind.  

...it was NOT all in my mind.

We met up for coffee and from the first minute we met, it was aaaawwwwkward!  We did that awkward little handshake/hug dance, where I go in for a hug and he jabs me in the stomach trying to shake my hand.  Such a great way to start off the date.  He is a really nice, cute guy, but the entire time I can't stop thinking, there is NO WAY this guy is straight!  There's something innately feminine about his whole persona and I find myself struggling REALLY hard to create some chemistry between us- though I have to say, I have had some fantastic chemistry with gay men before, but this was a lost cause.

So, I went home that night, feeling as confused as he probably is.